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The Very Presence of a Community and Other Voices Can Be Reassuring, Regardless of What They’re Even Saying

It’s been interesting, the past decade. Polyamory went from being a relatively obscure term, something that was only discussed in low-tech ancient discussion groups that looked basically like .txt files posted by a few obsessive outliers, to being covered by major news outlets. (The history of this emergence is well covered by Alan M’s blog Polyamory in the News)

While people disagree on whether consensual non-monogamy has caught on as a practice during that time (some people say no,  » Read more

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It’s Easy to Knock Polyamory If You Haven’t Seen Any Healthy Examples of It

Page   November 26, 2018   Comments Off on It’s Easy to Knock Polyamory If You Haven’t Seen Any Healthy Examples of It

It’s late into the party, likely the final quarter of it judging by the sharp drop-off in energy and attendance.  A lot of the guests have gone home. Most of the ones who are still here have gone inside. Out by the fire, it’s just me and my friend Z, the reverse canary,  » Read more

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What It’s Like Being Featured in Media Pieces About Polyamory

Page   September 14, 2018   Comments Off on What It’s Like Being Featured in Media Pieces About Polyamory

Hi Page,

I’ve been reading Poly Land for a while now (first the site and eventually the book). I originally stumbled onto you after you were featured in The Huffington Post in “12 Questions People in Polyamorous Relationships Are Sick of Hearing.” I’ll be honest. I was kind of mad when I saw the article after a friend shared it.  » Read more

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Polymathy Confuses People Just As Much as, If Not More Than, Polyamory

Page   May 18, 2018   Comments Off on Polymathy Confuses People Just As Much as, If Not More Than, Polyamory

I’ve Been Poly My Whole Life — Polymathic

I’m different than a lot of other polyamorous educators because I haven’t been polyamorous my whole life. In fact, polyamory wasn’t even something I seriously considered until I was in my late 20s. Before then, I hadn’t even heard of the word. And I couldn’t fathom how non-monogamous relationships could be conducted in a way that was respectful and mutually beneficial for everyone involved.  » Read more

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Why I Publish a New Post Every Day

Page   April 24, 2018   Comments Off on Why I Publish a New Post Every Day

When I was brand new to polyamory, I read everything I could possibly get my hands on. I gobbled up every guidebook I could find on the subject. And when I was done reading those, I hit the Internet.

There wasn’t nearly as much out there in those days as there is now,  » Read more

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About that Sad First Book

Page   February 20, 2018   Comments Off on About that Sad First Book

Life is not a PG feel-good movie. Real life often ends badly. Literature tries to document this reality, while showing us it is still possible for us to endure nobly.

-Matthew Quick

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“I read your blog for a while before I read Poly Land,  » Read more

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I’m Just a Hick Kid in Big City Clothing

Page   December 25, 2017   Comments Off on I’m Just a Hick Kid in Big City Clothing

I’m standing in a lushly decorated rooftop bar holding a drink that cost me more than I think a drink should. Although it’s a heavy pour, so that’s good. I’m dressed to the nines. Chic dress, lace pumps, suit coat. I’d spent hours earlier combing my wardrobe for the best pieces, looking for something that says “trendy businesswoman mixed with just a touch of first lady.”  » Read more

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How to Hear the Secret “For Me” that Other People Miss

Page   October 16, 2017   Comments Off on How to Hear the Secret “For Me” that Other People Miss

“You should hear what he says about you when you’re not around,” she says.

“Oh?” I say. She has my attention.

“He says your writing is too personal, that you open up and share too much,” she says.

I’m stunned by this news. To my face he’s never been anything other than complimentary.  » Read more

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PQ 9.10 — Do I feel I have no expectation of privacy in my other relationships?

Page   August 6, 2017   Comments Off on PQ 9.10 — Do I feel I have no expectation of privacy in my other relationships?

PQ 9.10 — Do I feel I have no expectation of privacy in my other relationships?

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I’ve written a bit about the importance of letting others have privacy in an earlier piece: Buttinski, #1 Metamour, or Compervert: Walking that Fine Line. As I wrote then:

While an overall atmosphere of transparency is a wonderful thing in polyamory (as it can promote understanding and build trust),  » Read more

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Why Polyamory Is Good for Artists: Keeping a Sharp Edge

Page   August 1, 2017   Comments Off on Why Polyamory Is Good for Artists: Keeping a Sharp Edge

“I don’t know how you do it,” she says.

“Do what?” I say.

“Polyamory,” she says.

“Happily,” I reply.

She laughs. “It just always seems like you have something stressful going on. If it’s not an issue with one of your partners, something’s going on with one of their partners.  » Read more

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