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It’s Not Easy to Balance Attachment and Autonomy

It’s a balance I’m yet to master, how to be attached just the right amount and in the just the right ways.

I’m used to being all alone on my own frequency. Used to taking years to wind up to a point where I feel brave enough to speak my truth, only to have it land on other people as absolute nonsense.  » Read more

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PQ 14.4 — What will happen if someone breaks the agreement? Do we have a path for reestablishing trust?

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PQ 14.4 — What will happen if someone breaks the agreement? Do we have a path for reestablishing trust?

Consequences and Accountability

“I guess I just don’t see the difference between setting a boundary and making an ultimatum,” the young man says. He’s come up to me after the class I’m teaching.

You’ve clearly had experiences that make you feel that way,  » Read more

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PQ 12.5 — Do I trust my partner to make good decisions about whom she starts relationships with? Why or why not? What might the consequences be if she makes a poor decision, and how might I deal with those consequences?

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PQ 12.5 — Do I trust my partner to make good decisions about whom she starts relationships with? Why or why not? What might the consequences be if she makes a poor decision, and how might I deal with those consequences?

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Ooooo boy, this question.

The answer these days regarding my anchor partner Skyspook,  » Read more

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PQ 12.4 — Do I trust my partner to consider my needs and well-being in his decisions about whether to stay in a relationship that is hurting me? Why or why not? If not, what can I do to improve that trust?

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PQ 12.4 — Do I trust my partner to consider my needs and well-being in his decisions about whether to stay in a relationship that is hurting me? Why or why not? If not, what can I do to improve that trust?

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“Page,” he says. “I hate to ask this from you.  » Read more

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Homing Pigeon Primary: Good Things Are Hard to Screw Up

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“You can’t lose a homing pigeon. If your homing pigeon doesn’t come back, then what you’ve lost is a pigeon.”

Sara Pascoe, writer and stand-up comic

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“So I know you’ve been asking for an open relationship for an awfully long time,” I said to him.  » Read more

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PQ 1.6 – How do I define commitment? Is it possible for me to commit to more than one person at a time, and if so, what would those commitments look like?

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Poly Question 1.6

How do I define commitment? Is it possible for me to commit to more than one person at a time, and if so, what would those commitments look like?

“There is no such thing as a lover’s oath.”
-Plato

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From “Worse is Better and Better,
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