Tag Archives: Survival

What Are We Gonna Do Without Each Other?

“This is a weird and difficult time to be polyamorous,” he says.

And I know what he means. I’m not sure what to do with it all. With any of it.

It’s tempting at times like these to come up with a quick answer that sounds good. To make up flowcharts or guides that address the problems we want to have rather than the ones we actually have.  » Read more

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How to Hear the Secret “For Me” that Other People Miss

Page   October 16, 2017   Comments Off on How to Hear the Secret “For Me” that Other People Miss

“You should hear what he says about you when you’re not around,” she says.

“Oh?” I say. She has my attention.

“He says your writing is too personal, that you open up and share too much,” she says.

I’m stunned by this news. To my face he’s never been anything other than complimentary.  » Read more

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“Can I Borrow Your Male Privilege?”: Sex Positivity with a Man Nearby

Page   March 12, 2017   Comments Off on “Can I Borrow Your Male Privilege?”: Sex Positivity with a Man Nearby

The geese are extra territorial at the zoo. “Must be mating season,” I say.

Skyspook nods. “The start of it anyway.”

A cacophony of honks explodes in the air. Jockeying for mates.

There are so many ducks on the water. Most of them are acting up, just like the geese.  » Read more

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Happy 2nd Birthday, Divorce!

Page   April 16, 2014   Comments Off on Happy 2nd Birthday, Divorce!

Despite the fact that I spent most of my life vehemently anti-divorce and swore I’d never get one, divorce was the best thing ever when I actually needed one.  It took an impossible situation and turned it into one that was challenging–but not impossible. You see, I’d stipulated early on in my marriage to Seth […]

Reflections on an Unhappy Marriage

Page   May 9, 2012   Comments Off on Reflections on an Unhappy Marriage

This is an essay posted elsewhere that I’ve decided to put up here so I can reference and refer to it – as it deals with some things I know I’ll be writing about in the near future. Until the divorce was finalized (an event that took place over a month ago now), I didn’t […]

my earliest introductions to the concept of formal non-monogamy

Page   September 15, 2010   Comments Off on my earliest introductions to the concept of formal non-monogamy

1998: On my own at UMass Amherst for the summer, I make friends with a hippie gentleman in his late 50’s (a jazz violinist) who informs that he has an open marriage. I am 17 at the time, and he tells me that I’m quite a musician, adorable, and wise beyond my years and would […]