Tag Archives: sexual orientation

The Relief of Finally Being Visibly and Actively Biromantic

Page   May 2, 2019   Comments Off on The Relief of Finally Being Visibly and Actively Biromantic

As I wrote in an earlier piece, while I didn’t practice polyamory until the last decade or so, I’ve been bisexual for as long as I can remember. And as such, I’m no stranger to bisexual erasure. It’s been a constant companion no matter where I go.

Bisexual erasure involves basically any attempt to invalidate bisexuality as a real sexual identity,  » Read more

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There *Are* Asexual Polyamorous People, You Know

Page   January 31, 2019   Comments Off on There *Are* Asexual Polyamorous People, You Know

A lot of people assume that this idea that polyamory is about having loving, committed relationships is all a bunch of hooey.

Secretly, they argue, deep down inside, all polyamorists are looking for is sex. It’s about the sex. The ease of having more access to greater sexual variety. And the ability to have super adventurous experiences like orgies.  » Read more

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In Order to Be Polyamorous, I Had to Get Over the Idea That It’d Make Me a Bad Bisexual

Page   September 18, 2018   Comments Off on In Order to Be Polyamorous, I Had to Get Over the Idea That It’d Make Me a Bad Bisexual

I Kept Having the Same Two Conversations, Over and Over Again

Growing up bisexual, I’d end up in an unpleasant conversation every time I told a new partner my sexual orientation. And it usually went one of the following ways:

Conversation #1: 

Them: Oh, you’re bi? Next thing I know, you’ll be telling me you need to have a boyfriend/girlfriend,  » Read more

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Polyamory Helped Me Find a Community of Other Bisexual People

Page   July 25, 2018   Comments Off on Polyamory Helped Me Find a Community of Other Bisexual People

As I’ve written before, unlike a lot of other polyamorous educators, I wasn’t someone who always knew I was polyamorous. Indeed, I considered myself quite a monogamous person growing up. Even now, I think of myself as being more ambiamorous than anything else, able to happily practice either polyamory or monogamy,  » Read more

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It’s a Different World for Bisexual Women

Page   January 22, 2018   Comments Off on It’s a Different World for Bisexual Women

Nearly 20 years ago, I lived for several months with my friend’s drug dealer. He was 13 years older than me. I didn’t want to date him in the first place, but back then I had a hard time saying no, and he was very persuasive.

Besides, he paid me kindnesses, things that would seem trivial now,  » Read more

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Bisexuality, Islands of Desire, and Invisible Polyamory

Page   September 26, 2017   Comments Off on Bisexuality, Islands of Desire, and Invisible Polyamory

Invisible Polyamory

Skyspook and I have been charting my polyamorous web chart for the second book (coming soon). A map of my current relationship system, with all of my partners’ partners and so on. Taken as a whole, it looks hopelessly complicated.

But it never feels that way. These days it’s a pretty stable system.  » Read more

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I Fall in Love with Women Who Are How I’d Like to Be

Page   August 29, 2017   Comments Off on I Fall in Love with Women Who Are How I’d Like to Be

Can anyone remember love? It’s like trying to summon up the smell of roses in a cellar. You might see a rose, but never the perfume.

-Arthur Miller

Ro’s Perfume

I leave Ro’s, my entire body thrumming. Still smelling her perfume.

We’ve been talking about nonhormonal contraception. Harry Chapin’s songs.  » Read more

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To Make Mono/Poly Easier, View Monogamy and Polyamory as a Spectrum, Not a Binary

Page   April 17, 2017   Comments Off on To Make Mono/Poly Easier, View Monogamy and Polyamory as a Spectrum, Not a Binary

Mono/poly relationships (i.e., pairings in which one partner is monogamous and the other is polyamorous) are famously difficult.

While there are many factors, we do ourselves no favors by viewing monogamy and polyamory as polar opposites rather than as points on the same spectrum.

Consider this: It’s difficult to find a workable middle between two things if you’re convinced that one can’t possibly exist.  » Read more

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Ask Page: Helping Bisexual Women Open Up

Page   March 23, 2017   Comments Off on Ask Page: Helping Bisexual Women Open Up

Hi Page,

My wife and I opened our marriage a while ago. Well, opened it at least in theory. We haven’t found anybody yet. Maybe it’s because we live in a conservative area with a lot of religious people, but it’s really been hard finding a woman to date us both (I’m straight,  » Read more

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So You Think You’re Hypersexual: Living Up to the Hype

Page   December 16, 2016   Comments Off on So You Think You’re Hypersexual: Living Up to the Hype

Hype Is Short for Hypersexual

Hey there, I’m hype. That’s short for hypersexual.

You may be familiar with folks who are ace, which is short for asexual. Asexuality awareness has really taken off in recent years, which is a fantastic thing. In basic terms, people who are asexual have no sexual feelings or desire.  » Read more

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