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The Conscientious Polyamorist

Page   December 5, 2017   Comments Off on The Conscientious Polyamorist

A study came out a while back correlating personality traits with polyamory and other forms of consensual non-monogamy. I read it with great interest but didn’t write about it for a long time.

Frankly, I was rather feelsy about the results:

  1. Having an openness to experience made it more likely that someone would have positive attitudes towards consensual non-monogamy (CNM) and be willing to engage in those kinds of relationships
  2. People high in conscientiousness were markedly less likely to have consensually non-monogamous relationships and in general held more negative attitudes toward them

As the study authors wrote about the second point:

“[I]ndividuals who tend to be very organized,  » Read more

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How to Hear the Secret “For Me” that Other People Miss

Page   October 16, 2017   Comments Off on How to Hear the Secret “For Me” that Other People Miss

“You should hear what he says about you when you’re not around,” she says.

“Oh?” I say. She has my attention.

“He says your writing is too personal, that you open up and share too much,” she says.

I’m stunned by this news. To my face he’s never been anything other than complimentary.  » Read more

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Are Open Relationships Less Sexually Satisfying or Is Dating?: An Alternate Hypothesis

Page   June 13, 2017   Comments Off on Are Open Relationships Less Sexually Satisfying or Is Dating?: An Alternate Hypothesis

Quartz recently published a piece called “Turns out open relationships aren’t the most sexually satisfying.”

As Cassie Werber writes in the article:

Opening up a relationship can be about more than sex. Advocates talk about the deep trust forged by letting one’s partner have other relationships,  » Read more

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Stigma, Funding, and Getting Off the Fringe: An Interview with Dr. Terri Conley

Page   June 7, 2017   Comments Off on Stigma, Funding, and Getting Off the Fringe: An Interview with Dr. Terri Conley

If you’re an ethically nonmonogamous person and haven’t heard of Terri Conley, PhD, you’re missing out. Dr. Conley is “a social psychologist, a feminist, and a sex researcher, but not necessarily in that order.”

And Conley has arguably done more than any other person for establishing a sound scientific basis that polyamory and other forms of consensual nonmonogamy are a viable way to conduct relationships.  » Read more

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7 Ways to Keep Love Alive and Make an Old Relationship Feel New

Page   February 21, 2017   Comments Off on 7 Ways to Keep Love Alive and Make an Old Relationship Feel New

When you first start dating someone, everything is new and exciting. And then after a while, even a great relationship has a way of becoming routine. Even predictable.

But it doesn’t have to be this way.

Here are 7 ways to make an old relationship feel shiny and new:  » Read more

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Compersion IS Empathy: Aiming for Joy

Page   November 13, 2016   Comments Off on Compersion IS Empathy: Aiming for Joy

Compersion is Empathy

When you get down to it, compersion (i.e., delight in the happiness of others) is just a very specific kind of empathy, one that runs counter to our cultural expectations.

Now, I’m not trying to take away all the fun words. I love neologisms as much as the next person.  » Read more

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