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Learning to Be Polyamorous Isn’t As Hard as Unlearning What You Were Taught About Relationships

Can you learn to be polyamorous? the reader asks.

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Yes, you can.

Well, sort of.

Because so much of the work I did in my early days as a polyamorous person wasn’t about learning polyamory but about unlearning what I’d been taught about relationships.  » Read more

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Solo Polyamory Raises Important Questions That I’m Glad to Hear People Asking

Page   July 30, 2018   Comments Off on Solo Polyamory Raises Important Questions That I’m Glad to Hear People Asking

Hi Page,

Thank you for your blog. It’s really awesome.

I was wondering if you have written any pieces about solo polyamory and what your opinion is on it?

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You know, I have written about solo polyamory here but only very little.  » Read more

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Running Out of Side Quests on the Quest for Primary

Page   July 25, 2017   Comments Off on Running Out of Side Quests on the Quest for Primary

“If you asked most people whether they believed in love or not, they’d probably say they didn’t. Yet that’s not necessarily what they truly think. It’s just the way they defend themselves against what they want. They believe in it, but pretend they don’t until they’re allowed to. Most people would throw away all their cynicism if they could.  » Read more

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“That’s Not Poly”: Polyamorous Sex Negativity and the Relationship Escalator

Page   April 3, 2017   Comments Off on “That’s Not Poly”: Polyamorous Sex Negativity and the Relationship Escalator

Polyamorous Controversy Over “Benefits”

As readers responded to our recent post 7 Common Myths About Being Polyamorous on social media, one myth quickly emerged as the most controversial:

4. If you have flings, you’re not polyamorous.

Some other folks may feel differently about this, but for me polyamory is about radical openness to whatever happens to develop.  » Read more

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Comfortable Polyamory: The Yoga Pants of Love

Page   March 17, 2017   Comments Off on Comfortable Polyamory: The Yoga Pants of Love

“Polyamory?” I’m sometimes asked. “Isn’t that a lot of hard work?”

And the poly honor student answer goes a little something like this: “Of course it is! But it’s well worth the effort.”

But I’m not much of an honor student. And the truth is? The way I’ve learned to approach polyamory,  » Read more

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Bingo! Poly in Name Only: Mono x 2, 3, or More

Page   November 27, 2016   Comments Off on Bingo! Poly in Name Only: Mono x 2, 3, or More

I’ve seen it play out dozens of times. A nice young couple discovers polyamory. At last one half is terribly excited. The other half might be reluctant to explore at first, but after extended processing and assurances, it’s all systems go. Off to the races!

Our heroes give this new relationship philosophy everything they’ve got.  » Read more

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Catch and Release: Relationships that Come and Go

Page   October 18, 2016   Comments Off on Catch and Release: Relationships that Come and Go

Timing is everything in relationships.  In monogamous (or serial monogamous) terms, if two people want to date, they must be available at the same time, i.e., not otherwise partnered. Unless of course one or both of them cheat, and deception is not the preferred way to start things off. One would think that this conflict,  » Read more

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The Relationship Escalator

Page   October 8, 2016   Comments Off on The Relationship Escalator

Photo by jkadlec / CC BY

It can be as overwhelming as it is freeing. Once you move away from the standard template of what romantic relationships are supposed to be, how things are supposed to progress from stage to stage, there’s a dizzying variety to the types of connections we can actually forge with people.  » Read more