Tag Archives: poly

You Can Be More Than One Thing, Even If People Keep Trying to Make You Pick Which One Is “Real”

I know I write pretty frequently about polyamory, but as anyone who reads me or follows me on social media for a while knows, polyamory is far from the only thing I write or post about.

And while this site might be called Poly Land, I’m not only interested in polyamory.  » Read more

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How to Meet Polyamorous People

Page   March 2, 2018   Comments Off on How to Meet Polyamorous People

I’ve been interested in polyamory for a long time, and I have a question: How do you find partners? How do you meet polyamorous people? 

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A lot of people who are looking to date polyamorously will seek out new partners via a traditional dating platform like OkCupid or Tinder.  » Read more

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Chemistry Is Obvious, Dealbreakers Aren’t

Page   December 21, 2017   Comments Off on Chemistry Is Obvious, Dealbreakers Aren’t

She’s looking positively fierce in a black gown that envelopes her slender frame as though it was made for her, standing with perfect posture. But as soon as he enters the room, her body language changes. She hunches over forward sharply, like anything that folds for storage when you kick in its joints. She turns towards him and stares.  » Read more

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Voyeurism as Exposure Therapy: How Watching Kink Scenes Made Polyamory Easier for Me

Page   December 19, 2017   Comments Off on Voyeurism as Exposure Therapy: How Watching Kink Scenes Made Polyamory Easier for Me

I’m watching them from across the room, leaning against the wall. Trying to be as unobtrusive as I can, so that I don’t spoil their energy. I’ve positioned myself so that there’s another scene partially obscuring my view: A woman pressed up against a St. Andrew’s cross, her partner flogging her back in time to the music filtering into the room.  » Read more

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The War on Christmas. Or Monogamy. Or Something.

Page   November 27, 2017   Comments Off on The War on Christmas. Or Monogamy. Or Something.

War on Christmas Lady

I can hear her coming down the hall, talking to someone on her cell phone as she walks into the office suite.

“All this so-called gender stuff hurts kids. I read that some kindergartner decided their gender was ‘tractor’ and I’m supposed to respect that?”

She doesn’t know I can hear her,  » Read more

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I Am Not Your Wife: On Dating the Inexperienced

Page   June 2, 2017   Comments Off on I Am Not Your Wife: On Dating the Inexperienced

I Am Not Your Wife

“I called off my date,” he said.

“You did what?” I asked, confused.

“It seemed like what you wanted,” he said.

“It’s not,” I said.

“It’s not?”

“All I was saying was that I was uncomfortable. Because you asked me how I felt.  » Read more

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How to Know If a Slut Loves You

Page   May 31, 2017   Comments Off on How to Know If a Slut Loves You

“Promiscuous” implies that I’m not choosy. In fact I’m very choosy. I just happen to have had a lot of choices.

-Jacki Weaver

How Do You Know If a Slut Loves You?

It is the giddy catch of breath. Their quick smile.

The way they look at you. Beyond pensive.  » Read more

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Ask Page: Being There While My Partner’s Conservative Family Is in Town

Page   May 2, 2017   Comments Off on Ask Page: Being There While My Partner’s Conservative Family Is in Town

Hi Page,

I need your advice. My girlfriend who is not out as kinky or poly with a Christian faith based family is scheduled to have MAJOR surgery. Her family (elderly Mother & two young adult daughters) will be in town for her surgery and recovery for a few weeks.  » Read more

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Open Relationships Aren’t Just for Promiscuous People

Page   April 15, 2017   Comments Off on Open Relationships Aren’t Just for Promiscuous People

“So this couple I know is poly now. I never would have thought they’d open up,” she says.

“Why is that?” I ask.

“Well, they’re really tame. Neither of them has slept with very many people. I think she’s his first, and he’s her second,” she replies.

“And it surprises you that they opened up?”  » Read more

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Post-Poly Exile: On Your Own in the In-Between

Page   February 13, 2017   Comments Off on Post-Poly Exile: On Your Own in the In-Between

You Can’t Un-Learn a Thing

Once upon a time, I hadn’t even heard of the word “polyamory.” But when a friend came out to me as polyamorous, that changed forever.

You can’t un-learn a thing.

It was a paradigm shift. I no longer saw a strict binary: Monogamy/non-monogamy. With monogamy, as the ideal goal,  » Read more

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