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The Stigma Against Struggling With a Metamour & Why It’s Important to Work Against It

“I love your new book,” she said.

“Thanks,” I replied. “I don’t usually like what I write, but I’m proud of that one. I’m happy with how it turned out.”

“I’m glad someone said it,” she said. “Loud and clear.”

“Said it?”

“That metamour relationships can be difficult sometimes.  » Read more

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Comfortable Polyamory: The Yoga Pants of Love

Page   March 17, 2017   Comments Off on Comfortable Polyamory: The Yoga Pants of Love

“Polyamory?” I’m sometimes asked. “Isn’t that a lot of hard work?”

And the poly honor student answer goes a little something like this: “Of course it is! But it’s well worth the effort.”

But I’m not much of an honor student. And the truth is? The way I’ve learned to approach polyamory,  » Read more

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Polyamory and Reformed Cheaters: Fessing Up is Hard to Do

Page   December 26, 2016   Comments Off on Polyamory and Reformed Cheaters: Fessing Up is Hard to Do

Polyamory is Harder for Reformed Cheaters

“Polyamory? That’s something that for reformed cheaters, right?”

And I want to say no when people say that, but it’s a great deal more complicated than that.

While there are plenty of people who become polyamorous without ever being physically unfaithful as monogamous people, there are others who did.  » Read more

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Poly Honor Student Answers: Defensiveness and Stigma

Page   October 19, 2016   Comments Off on Poly Honor Student Answers: Defensiveness and Stigma

A lot of us are guilty of giving poly honor student answers.

“You’re poly?” we’re asked. “Aren’t you worried about diseases?”

And we answer with the standard-issue Poly Honor Student answer, which goes a little something like this: “Of course we are, but we all practice safe sex and are regularly tested.”

Of course,  » Read more

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“But what if they test positive?”

Page   August 6, 2016   Comments Off on “But what if they test positive?”

“But aren’t you worried about diseases?” It’s a very frequent question asked of poly people – and a very natural one. I know it’s the first one I asked when polyamory was presented to me as a relationship option. Your standard-issue Poly Honor Student answer goes a little something like this: “Of course we are, […]