Tag Archives: pansexuality

How Did I Get Into All This Kinky Shit Anyway?

Page   February 11, 2012   Comments Off on How Did I Get Into All This Kinky Shit Anyway?

It’s a valid question. Once upon a time I was in a vanilla (i.e., non-kinky) monogamous heterosexual relationship. We met through mutual friends, dated for 4 years, and got married. After another 4 years of being together, we opened the relationship up to other people. There was a party we threw back in January 2009 […]

Poly With a Penis

Page   February 3, 2011   Comments Off on Poly With a Penis

Polyamory. It’s a woman’s world. Don’t look at me like that. 😛 I’m not hating on men! I have character witnesses that will testify that I (enthusiastically) love me some men – despite the strange looks I’ve gotten from some of my friends. That’s the problem, really. The curious double standard. How much more desired […]

Orientation

Page   January 30, 2011   Comments Off on Orientation

For the longest time, I seriously believed myself to be asexual. This was of course at odds with my desperate desires to be seen naked, to be touched, flesh on flesh. Interestingly, my first physical experiences were with other girls… Looking back, this was a question of simple access. It was not at all uncommon […]

my earliest introductions to the concept of formal non-monogamy

Page   September 15, 2010   Comments Off on my earliest introductions to the concept of formal non-monogamy

1998: On my own at UMass Amherst for the summer, I make friends with a hippie gentleman in his late 50’s (a jazz violinist) who informs that he has an open marriage. I am 17 at the time, and he tells me that I’m quite a musician, adorable, and wise beyond my years and would […]

Losing Control

Page   August 7, 2010   Comments Off on Losing Control

Having safe sex with women can be pretty tricky. Oh, the condom! Why must you be so inapplicable to my efforts to sex up the ladies? Or one lady in particular. Don’t get me wrong; I am well aware of the dental dam, but still I worry. It seems patently unfair to have been born […]