Tag Archives: open relationships

Advice Friend: My Partner Is Sharing Posts from a Polyamory Page, Should I Be Concerned I’m Being Cheated On?

Hi Page,

The person I’ve been dating for 3-1/2 years has recently been reposting your stuff from Facebook.

Should I bring it up and directly ask if he is polyamorous? And if I didn’t know this about him, would that be considered cheating since it wasn’t “knowledge or consent of BOTH parties,”  » Read more

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Are There a Time and Place for Babyproofing an Open Relationship?

I’m watching my mother-in-law baby proof her house for my nephew since my husband’s brother and his wife will be there any minute with the kid in tow. My mother-in-law moves around the space quickly. It’s clear she has a routine. That she’s done this dozens of times.

She closes doors all up and down the hall.  » Read more

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The Shrew-Whoredog Dichotomy: Expected to Control and Motivate One’s Partner

Page   November 3, 2017   Comments Off on The Shrew-Whoredog Dichotomy: Expected to Control and Motivate One’s Partner

Reading your experiences and understanding I’m not a shrew for wanting communication and some details beforehand and he’s not a whoredog for wanting to play with every new woman he meets had seriously helped us both.

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I got this letter a while ago, and it remains one of my favorites.  » Read more

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PQ 11.5 — Do I clearly understand both the letter and the intent of the rules that will apply to my relationship? Am I comfortable maintaining a relationship within those rules? Am I comfortable with the reasons for the rules?

Page   October 1, 2017   Comments Off on PQ 11.5 — Do I clearly understand both the letter and the intent of the rules that will apply to my relationship? Am I comfortable maintaining a relationship within those rules? Am I comfortable with the reasons for the rules?

PQ 11.5 — Do I clearly understand both the letter and the intent of the rules that will apply to my relationship? Am I comfortable maintaining a relationship within those rules? Am I comfortable with the reasons for the rules?

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In my time, I’ve known some folks with very brief relationship agreements.  » Read more

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I Opened This Door. What If I Lose My Partner?

Page   September 15, 2017   Comments Off on I Opened This Door. What If I Lose My Partner?

“It’s been a rough time,” he says. “I’m adjusting the best I can, but…” He looks away.

I wait for him to finish.

“There’s a lot to adjust to,” he says. “She’s a different person with this much NRE. And I can’t help but notice how much faster they fell in love than we did.  » Read more

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15 Open Relationship Rules That Make Basically No Sense

Page   August 28, 2017   Comments Off on 15 Open Relationship Rules That Make Basically No Sense

Today’s post is a guest blog post from my dear friend John. Because I’m kind of an A-hole friend, I shared with him an agony-inducing article from the folks at LovePanky called “15 Open Relationship Rules for a Better Love Life.”

Once John stopped raging at its content, he produced the following writeup.  » Read more

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Are Open Relationships Less Sexually Satisfying or Is Dating?: An Alternate Hypothesis

Page   June 13, 2017   Comments Off on Are Open Relationships Less Sexually Satisfying or Is Dating?: An Alternate Hypothesis

Quartz recently published a piece called “Turns out open relationships aren’t the most sexually satisfying.”

As Cassie Werber writes in the article:

Opening up a relationship can be about more than sex. Advocates talk about the deep trust forged by letting one’s partner have other relationships,  » Read more

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I Am Not Your Wife: On Dating the Inexperienced

Page   June 2, 2017   Comments Off on I Am Not Your Wife: On Dating the Inexperienced

I Am Not Your Wife

“I called off my date,” he said.

“You did what?” I asked, confused.

“It seemed like what you wanted,” he said.

“It’s not,” I said.

“It’s not?”

“All I was saying was that I was uncomfortable. Because you asked me how I felt.  » Read more

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Go Ahead and Date Your Friends, But Break Up Well

Page   May 26, 2017   Comments Off on Go Ahead and Date Your Friends, But Break Up Well

It’s a common rule that a lot of people have when they open up their relationships: No friends.

It’s likely one of those carryovers from traditional dating wisdom. Don’t date friends because most relationships break up, and if you break up with someone, you’re likely to ruin the friendship.

But my dirty secret: I nearly always date friends.  » Read more

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Open Relationships Aren’t Just for Promiscuous People

Page   April 15, 2017   Comments Off on Open Relationships Aren’t Just for Promiscuous People

“So this couple I know is poly now. I never would have thought they’d open up,” she says.

“Why is that?” I ask.

“Well, they’re really tame. Neither of them has slept with very many people. I think she’s his first, and he’s her second,” she replies.

“And it surprises you that they opened up?”  » Read more

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