Tag Archives: open marriage

I May Be Polyamorous, But I’m No Homewrecker

Page   September 17, 2018   Comments Off on I May Be Polyamorous, But I’m No Homewrecker

If it makes you uncomfortable, we can pretend it never happened.

That moment lives in a hazy part of my memory anyway. The place where things that don’t seem real when they’re happening live. Those moments when it feels like reality is shimmering.

We’re standing in my office with the door closed.  » Read more

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I’ve Always Loved Movies About Married Couples Who Actually Like Each Other

Page   November 9, 2017   Comments Off on I’ve Always Loved Movies About Married Couples Who Actually Like Each Other

It’s a very low-key Sunday afternoon. I’m a little under the weather, recovering from a stressful work week and nursing a slight hangover. Skyspook has been out late the night before at a friend’s bachelor party.

We’re hanging out on the couch watching movies from the 80s and 90s. Taking turns making suggestions.  » Read more

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Just Try Something

Page   September 9, 2016   Comments Off on Just Try Something

Key Things to Keep in Mind About Happiness

(from Stumbling on Happiness by Dan Gilbert)

1) We often exaggerate in imagining the long-term emotional effects certain events will have on us.

2) Most of us tend to have a basic level of happiness which we revert to eventually.  » Read more

Reflections on an Unhappy Marriage

Page   May 9, 2012   Comments Off on Reflections on an Unhappy Marriage

This is an essay posted elsewhere that I’ve decided to put up here so I can reference and refer to it – as it deals with some things I know I’ll be writing about in the near future. Until the divorce was finalized (an event that took place over a month ago now), I didn’t […]

Goodbye, White Knight

Page   May 2, 2012   Comments Off on Goodbye, White Knight

In February of 2010, I’m walking through the streets of Bangor late at night in 4-inch patent leather heels with a handsome man holding my hand, steadying me. He’s a friend I’ve made out with a few times. We’ve both had a fair amount of drink, left the party to take a walk for the […]

Poly Debriefing #4: Don’t Forget to Oil Your Hinges

Page   April 23, 2012   Comments Off on Poly Debriefing #4: Don’t Forget to Oil Your Hinges

These days I’m polyamorous in spirit, monogamous in practice. It feels disingenuous to claim that I am one or the other completely. Even though my relationship is monogamous, meaning that we are sexually exclusive, I have learned so much from experiencing polyamorous relationships that I will never be the same person I was before. As […]

How Many Counties Are There in the State of Denial?

Page   April 20, 2012   Comments Off on How Many Counties Are There in the State of Denial?

My mom called me on the phone to chat a few days ago, and the first thing she asked me was if I’d bought anything fun with the money she’d sent me for my birthday. I told her that I’d snatched up 2 new pairs of cute shoes for cheap on eBay, and when she […]

Desperation

Page   March 23, 2012   Comments Off on Desperation

July 9, 2010: There is a placefor the singlepeople – and ho are they? who am I I inventa person worthy of servitude – is there a line of pretenders .txt file authored when drunk * I am proud of my life now, the way I manage my days, take care of my body. I […]

Bad Poly: A Case Study

Page   March 1, 2012   Comments Off on Bad Poly: A Case Study

How does a person who is polyamorous in spirit end up monogamous in practice? To put it mildly, I was party to some truly bad poly. And despite whose “fault” you think the whole thing was when the dust settled (I personally believe we all fucked up to varying degrees), I’m confident that everyone involved […]

Regrowing My Claws

Page   February 24, 2012   Comments Off on Regrowing My Claws

Before my explorations in kink with Skyspook, there was another man, Ex-Boyfriend in Cleveland. I met Ex-Boyfriend through a girl I was seeing as he was her husband’s best friend and her friend with occasional benefits. I had already become rather curious about the kink scene as a result of the apparent crossover between polyamory […]