Tag Archives: friendship

You Can Date Your Friends, But Don’t Date All of Your Friends

Sometimes people ask me how I got into writing books about relationships, blogging for a large audience, giving advice.

People always seem to be hoping for some backstory in which I had some kind of grand vision. In which I shot forward with the unbridled determination of an activist and an ideologue for kink and non-monogamy.  » Read more

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How Being Polyamorous Can Be Different: Unorthodox Friendships & Support

Page   February 12, 2018   Comments Off on How Being Polyamorous Can Be Different: Unorthodox Friendships & Support

As a person who has been polyamorous for quite a while now, I’m sometimes asked by others how it’s different. And I suppose if you break it down, there are a lot of little differences that stem from within me. Things that tend to bother other people really don’t bother me. I’ve lost all sense of outrage regarding what are popularly regarded as “  » Read more

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Ask Page: I Think I Want to Break Up with Him, But I Don’t Want to Lose the Friendship

Page   October 31, 2017   Comments Off on Ask Page: I Think I Want to Break Up with Him, But I Don’t Want to Lose the Friendship

Hi Page,

I read your blog and your book, and I’m hoping you can help me.

I’ve been polyamorous for 2 years. I have a husband. We were married for about 3 years before we opened up. Like you, we were introduced to polyamory because we found out that our friends were polyamorous.  » Read more

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PQ 10.5 — What happens if the agreement doesn’t work for my partners, or my partners’ partners?

Page   September 9, 2017   Comments Off on PQ 10.5 — What happens if the agreement doesn’t work for my partners, or my partners’ partners?

PQ 10.5 — What happens if the agreement doesn’t work for my partners, or my partners’ partners?

“If Your Calendar Shows That You’re Available, I Expect You to Be Here”

“I looked at your calendar. There wasn’t anything on it,” Michelle said.

“Ah,” I said, not sure where she was going.  » Read more

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PQ 9.9 — Am I being asked to give up relationships with friends or family?

Page   August 5, 2017   Comments Off on PQ 9.9 — Am I being asked to give up relationships with friends or family?

PQ 9.9 — Am I being asked to give up relationships with friends or family?

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It’s funny. Back when I became monogamous with Seth, I didn’t give a single thought to my autonomy. When we got together, I basically stepped out of my own life and into his. When he didn’t like one of my friends,  » Read more

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I Wanna Be Stupid With You, You Bring Out the Idiot in Me

Page   April 13, 2017   Comments Off on I Wanna Be Stupid With You, You Bring Out the Idiot in Me

“Oh shit,” I say. I’ve turned the wrong way. And we’re creeping around the backside of the restaurant instead of escaping the parking lot.

“Ooo, look at him,” Fluffy says. They point to a man standing next to the back door with a cigarette in his hand. Probably a cook on his smoke break.  » Read more

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Why I’m (Nearly Always) Friends First

Page   March 26, 2017   Comments Off on Why I’m (Nearly Always) Friends First

It’s a standard piece of dating advice: “Be friends first.”

But it’s not automatically true just because people say it a lot.

Until rather recently I never followed this advice. I thought it inadvisable to be friends first. Maybe even a bit stupid. If I’m physically attracted to someone, why wait to explore that connection?  » Read more

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PQ 1.2 – Do I feel there can be only one “true” love or one “real” soulmate?

Page   September 1, 2016   Comments Off on PQ 1.2 – Do I feel there can be only one “true” love or one “real” soulmate?

Poly Question 1.2 Do I feel there can be only one “true” love or one “real” soulmate? * “Do I contradict myself? Very well, then I contradict myself, I am large, I contain multitudes.” -Walt Whitman, “Song of Myself” * At 8 years old, I murmur softly under the covers at Emma. I know we’re supposed […]

PQ 1.2 – Do I feel there can be only one “true” love or one “real” soulmate?

Page   September 1, 2016   Comments Off on PQ 1.2 – Do I feel there can be only one “true” love or one “real” soulmate?

Poly Question 1.2 Do I feel there can be only one “true” love or one “real” soulmate? * “Do I contradict myself? Very well, then I contradict myself, I am large, I contain multitudes.” -Walt Whitman, “Song of Myself” * At 8 years old, I murmur softly under the covers at Emma. I know we’re supposed … Continue reading “PQ 1.2 – Do I feel there can be only one “true” love or one “real” soulmate?”