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Learning to Be Polyamorous Isn’t As Hard as Unlearning What You Were Taught About Relationships

Can you learn to be polyamorous? the reader asks.

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Yes, you can.

Well, sort of.

Because so much of the work I did in my early days as a polyamorous person wasn’t about learning polyamory but about unlearning what I’d been taught about relationships.  » Read more

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5 Reasons Why I Used to Hate My Partner’s Exes & Why I (Mostly) Don’t Anymore

Page   April 10, 2018   Comments Off on 5 Reasons Why I Used to Hate My Partner’s Exes & Why I (Mostly) Don’t Anymore

It doesn’t feel great to admit, but I used to bitterly dislike anyone my current partner had dated in the past. This boiled down to five reasons. The first four of these were fairly conscious reasons, ones I was aware of. The fifth one, not so much. Here they are:  » Read more

1. They hurt my partner.

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I Love Not Having to Pretend I’ve Never Been in Love with Anyone Else

Page   December 26, 2017   Comments Off on I Love Not Having to Pretend I’ve Never Been in Love with Anyone Else

People Have a Way of Acting as Mirrors

“Sometimes I wonder if I put the people in my life through too much by writing about them,” I say.

She shakes her head. “I think we learn a lot about ourselves from how we deal with other people,” she says. “And your posts are a reflection of that.  » Read more

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Ghosts of Lovers Past

Page   September 6, 2016   Comments Off on Ghosts of Lovers Past

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“That reminds me of someone I used to date who…”

I used to do this so often that Seth and Megan got so they could anticipate when it was about to happen. I’d get this look on my face, nostalgic with a little thrill, as though a memory had been sparked back to life.
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No One Wants to Be the Bitter Ex

Page   July 29, 2016   Comments Off on No One Wants to Be the Bitter Ex

A fifth reason came to me as to Why So Few Polyamorists Write in Great Detail (aside from through anonymous or near-anonymous outlets, as PolyLogGal so astutely pointed out in her comments on yesterday’s post). I also thought this might be a good opportunity to talk a bit about my mistakes and times where I’ve […]