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FOMO, JOMO, and the Reality of Constant Comparison

FOMO: (noun) Fear of Missing Out. Anxiety that an exciting or interesting event may currently be happening elsewhere, often aroused by posts seen on a social media website.

JOMO: (noun) Joy of Missing Out. Feeling of contentment due to staying in and disconnecting, can be considered an act of self-care

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Comparison.  » Read more

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PQ 9.8 — Does my partner make me feel worse about myself?

Page   July 30, 2017   Comments Off on PQ 9.8 — Does my partner make me feel worse about myself?

PQ 9.8 — Does my partner make me feel worse about myself?

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Before I begin, a quick caveat: I get what this question is driving at, but saying someone “makes” us feel a certain way can have a downside.

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A lot of people are scared of polyamory and other forms of ethical non-monogamy because they worry their partner will compare them to others.  » Read more

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Stop Worrying If Things Are Even, or You’ll End Up With a Sad Shrub

Page   January 11, 2017   Comments Off on Stop Worrying If Things Are Even, or You’ll End Up With a Sad Shrub

It’s a dangerous road to travel down, comparing yourself to others. It might just be the biggest no-no in polyamory.

Many of us know we shouldn’t be playing the “better this way, better that way” game with our metamours. Wondering how we stack up against the “competition” (and indeed competition and zero sum thinking can be really bad for us).  » Read more

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