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Advice Friend: My Partner Is Sharing Posts from a Polyamory Page, Should I Be Concerned I’m Being Cheated On?

Hi Page,

The person I’ve been dating for 3-1/2 years has recently been reposting your stuff from Facebook.

Should I bring it up and directly ask if he is polyamorous? And if I didn’t know this about him, would that be considered cheating since it wasn’t “knowledge or consent of BOTH parties,”  » Read more

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Not Just Cheating: The Other Kind of Unethical Non-Monogamy

Page   November 28, 2017   Comments Off on Not Just Cheating: The Other Kind of Unethical Non-Monogamy

“So I ran into someone you know while I was at the mall today,” my roommate Noah said.

“Oh yeah?” I said. “Who?”

He said the name of a theater director I knew. A friend of a close friend.

“Nice,” I said. “How’s he doing anyway? I haven’t talked to him in ages.”  » Read more

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I Opened This Door. What If I Lose My Partner?

Page   September 15, 2017   Comments Off on I Opened This Door. What If I Lose My Partner?

“It’s been a rough time,” he says. “I’m adjusting the best I can, but…” He looks away.

I wait for him to finish.

“There’s a lot to adjust to,” he says. “She’s a different person with this much NRE. And I can’t help but notice how much faster they fell in love than we did.  » Read more

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Real Cheating Is Not Honoring Social Reciprocity: Hypocrisy and Lopsided Consideration

Page   June 28, 2017   Comments Off on Real Cheating Is Not Honoring Social Reciprocity: Hypocrisy and Lopsided Consideration

What man loses by the social contract is his natural liberty and an unlimited right to everything he tries to get and succeeds in getting; what he gains is civil liberty and the proprietorship of all he possesses.

It is in order not to become victim of an assassin that we consent to die if we become assassins.  » Read more

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It’s Not a Cure-All: 8 Things Polyamory Doesn’t Fix

Page   January 4, 2017   Comments Off on It’s Not a Cure-All: 8 Things Polyamory Doesn’t Fix

I’ll admit it. I think polyamory is pretty awesome. But what isn’t awesome? Unrealistic expectations.

Unfortunately, a lot of folks new to polyamory approach it expecting it to be a cure-all for their relationship issues.

Here are 8 things that polyamory doesn’t fix:

1. Polyamory Doesn’t Get Rid of Breakups

In fact,  » Read more

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Toxic Monogamy, Why Mono/Poly (and Poly) is Hard

Page   October 31, 2016   Comments Off on Toxic Monogamy, Why Mono/Poly (and Poly) is Hard

Poly/mono relationships, i.e., a relationship between a partner who is monogamous and one who is polyamorous, are notoriously difficult. Traditional poly blogger wisdom points the finger at both parties having to compromise and feeling somewhat shortchanged. The difference between the relationship structures is to blame for the trouble, they write. But I think it’s even simpler than that.  » Read more

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For my fellow poly/bi nerds…

Page   February 13, 2013   Comments Off on For my fellow poly/bi nerds…

I was doing research for a class project and found many interesting articles in online research databases, one of which I fortuitously found the author had linked to at his own web site. Excellent article on the common social and political challenges faced by the polyamorous and bisexual communities (a lot of overlap on that […]