Tag Archives: bisexuality

The Relief of Finally Being Visibly and Actively Biromantic

As I wrote in an earlier piece, while I didn’t practice polyamory until the last decade or so, I’ve been bisexual for as long as I can remember. And as such, I’m no stranger to bisexual erasure. It’s been a constant companion no matter where I go.

Bisexual erasure involves basically any attempt to invalidate bisexuality as a real sexual identity,  » Read more

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In Order to Be Polyamorous, I Had to Get Over the Idea That It’d Make Me a Bad Bisexual

Page   September 18, 2018   Comments Off on In Order to Be Polyamorous, I Had to Get Over the Idea That It’d Make Me a Bad Bisexual

I Kept Having the Same Two Conversations, Over and Over Again

Growing up bisexual, I’d end up in an unpleasant conversation every time I told a new partner my sexual orientation. And it usually went one of the following ways:

Conversation #1: 

Them: Oh, you’re bi? Next thing I know, you’ll be telling me you need to have a boyfriend/girlfriend,  » Read more

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Polyamory Helped Me Find a Community of Other Bisexual People

Page   July 25, 2018   Comments Off on Polyamory Helped Me Find a Community of Other Bisexual People

As I’ve written before, unlike a lot of other polyamorous educators, I wasn’t someone who always knew I was polyamorous. Indeed, I considered myself quite a monogamous person growing up. Even now, I think of myself as being more ambiamorous than anything else, able to happily practice either polyamory or monogamy,  » Read more

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It’s a Different World for Bisexual Women

Page   January 22, 2018   Comments Off on It’s a Different World for Bisexual Women

Nearly 20 years ago, I lived for several months with my friend’s drug dealer. He was 13 years older than me. I didn’t want to date him in the first place, but back then I had a hard time saying no, and he was very persuasive.

Besides, he paid me kindnesses, things that would seem trivial now,  » Read more

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Identifying as a Unicorn Allowed Me to Feel Proud of Something I Grew Up Feeling Ashamed About

Page   November 20, 2017   Comments Off on Identifying as a Unicorn Allowed Me to Feel Proud of Something I Grew Up Feeling Ashamed About

“What’s a unicorn?” someone new to polyamory and its lexicon will invariably ask.

As folks pop up to answer the question, a few definitions will emerge. The most basic one is that the term “unicorn” is one that is primarily used in polyamorous circles to denote a bisexual woman who will date couples (most commonly heterosexual ones).  » Read more

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I Wish I Knew Dating a Couple Was Even an Option When I Was Growing Up

Page   October 26, 2017   Comments Off on I Wish I Knew Dating a Couple Was Even an Option When I Was Growing Up

My first crush was on Jeff Goldblum and Geena Davis.

Yes. Both of them. Not Jeff or Geena. Jeff and Geena.

Especially when they were married, during the Earth Girls Are Easy days (and yes, The Fly, but that movie gives me and most other sane peeps the heebie jeebies).  » Read more

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PQ 8.9 — Do I believe that other people are willing to do sexual things that I’m not willing to do, and therefore my partner will like having sex with them better?

Page   June 25, 2017   Comments Off on PQ 8.9 — Do I believe that other people are willing to do sexual things that I’m not willing to do, and therefore my partner will like having sex with them better?

PQ 8.9 — Do I believe that other people are willing to do sexual things that I’m not willing to do, and therefore my partner will like having sex with them better?

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Not willing?

No, nothing like that.

I know this may be different for a lot of people.  » Read more

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What’s Mono/Poly?: A Basic Introduction

Page   April 26, 2017   Comments Off on What’s Mono/Poly?: A Basic Introduction

I really enjoyed your recent post on viewing monogamy and polyamory as a spectrum. It made me realize I don’t know a lot about mono/poly. What are some common reasons people are in mono/poly relationships? Can it work? Can it be fair? Or does the monogamous person just suffer all the time?  » Read more

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7 Common Myths About Being Polyamorous

Page   March 30, 2017   Comments Off on 7 Common Myths About Being Polyamorous

Polyamory has become much more visible in the last few years. While public acceptance and understanding are increasing, a number of misconceptions still persist about being polyamorous. Here are a few common ones:

1. When you’re polyamorous, you’re always looking for new partners.

No. Just because a person is polyamorous, it doesn’t mean they’re in the market for a new relationship.  » Read more

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Showered with Love and ORE: I’ve Enjoyed Dating Couples as a Unicorn

Page   March 28, 2017   Comments Off on Showered with Love and ORE: I’ve Enjoyed Dating Couples as a Unicorn

“Ugh,” she says. “More unicorn hunters. I hate unicorn hunters. Don’t they know that no self-respecting bisexual woman is willing to date a couple?”

I bite my tongue yet again, not sure if she remembers that I’ve dated couples. And not just one couple.  » Read more

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