What’s the Difference Between Polyamory & an Open Relationship?

Hi Page,

I have been thinking of something for the past week or so, and it has been scratching at my mind and I’m not really sure why because I don’t really care about labels.

Is there technically a difference between open relationships and polyamory? Or does it depend on the people involved and what their personal belief is regarding those?  » Read more

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“You Just Want to Have Your Cake and Eat It, Too”

You polyamorous people, she writes, you just want to have your cake and eat it, too.

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I’ve never liked this analogy. “You can’t have your cake and eat it, too.”

The wording’s always been a little confusing since “have” is often used when talking about food to mean “eat.”  » Read more

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Choosing a Home with Non-Monogamy and Privacy in Mind

Page   March 14, 2019   Comments Off on Choosing a Home with Non-Monogamy and Privacy in Mind

“You know what I’m looking forward to the most about buying a house?” she says.

“What’s that?”

“Personal space. Privacy,” she says. “And lots of it.”

I nod. I know what she means. As it stands, it’s pretty much impossible to have a date over in her apartment and have any degree of privacy if her nesting partner is home.  » Read more

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“That’s Not Just Polyamorous People”

Page   March 11, 2019   Comments Off on “That’s Not Just Polyamorous People”

Without fail, whenever one of my essays is shared enough, folks will start commenting on it in a very familiar way:

  • “This isn’t unique to polyamory.”
  • “This doesn’t just apply to polyamorous people.”

This happens even with essays that aren’t specifically about polyamory, ones in which I’m just talking about relationships in general.  » Read more

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You Can Be More Than One Thing, Even If People Keep Trying to Make You Pick Which One Is “Real”

Page   February 27, 2019   Comments Off on You Can Be More Than One Thing, Even If People Keep Trying to Make You Pick Which One Is “Real”

I know I write pretty frequently about polyamory, but as anyone who reads me or follows me on social media for a while knows, polyamory is far from the only thing I write or post about.

And while this site might be called Poly Land, I’m not only interested in polyamory.  » Read more

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“…So Who’s the Father?”

Page   February 25, 2019   Comments Off on “…So Who’s the Father?”

Today’s article is a guest post from Kitty Rea.

A school teacher in disguise, Kitty has a desire to help others. Aspiring to become a sex educator, she writes about sexuality, kink and alternative relationship styles and hosts a brand new Romanian podcast on love and lust. She teaches bondage all over Europe and is on a fabulous mission to spread self-love,  » Read more

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There *Are* Asexual Polyamorous People, You Know

Page   January 31, 2019   Comments Off on There *Are* Asexual Polyamorous People, You Know

A lot of people assume that this idea that polyamory is about having loving, committed relationships is all a bunch of hooey.

Secretly, they argue, deep down inside, all polyamorists are looking for is sex. It’s about the sex. The ease of having more access to greater sexual variety. And the ability to have super adventurous experiences like orgies.  » Read more

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When It Comes Down to It, *Everyone* Is Sharing Their Partner

Page   January 29, 2019   Comments Off on When It Comes Down to It, *Everyone* Is Sharing Their Partner

There are things you get used to hearing a lot when you’re in an open relationship. One of those is, “Oh, I could never do that. I wouldn’t want to share my partner.”

One common response to this a lot of people have tried is something like, “I don’t own my partner. I didn’t buy them.  » Read more

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“I’m Sorry, But I Have a Boyfriend”

Page   January 24, 2019   Comments Off on “I’m Sorry, But I Have a Boyfriend”

Growing up, I had a really hard time saying no. Even when it was the appropriate response, it felt harsh coming out of my mouth. Wrong.

Like a lot of women, I’d been raised to default to compliance. Going along with whatever other people wanted. It was part of blending in. Being liked.  » Read more

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Can We Be Poly If Our Calendars Don’t Mesh?

Page   January 18, 2019   Comments Off on Can We Be Poly If Our Calendars Don’t Mesh?

Today’s piece is a guest blog post from W0ndercunt. A Dominant sadomasochist as well as a leader in her local kink community, she can be found on FetLife here.

Check out what she wrote for Poly Land today:

Can We Be Poly If Our Calendars Don’t Mesh?

I laid out a lot on our first date,  » Read more

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