Author Archives: Page

“How Does One Become Part of the Polyamorous Community?”

Page   January 12, 2021   Comments Off on “How Does One Become Part of the Polyamorous Community?”

Hi Page,

I love your blog. You have a really fascinating way of framing topics that never would have occurred to me to even think about. I’m not polyamorous myself. I would say I’m more curious at the moment. This is a relatively new development. Even just a few years ago I would have sworn that I would never be interested in non-monogamy.   » Read more

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“I’m a Polyamorous Person Who Keeps Compromising by Having Monogamous Relationships & Feeling Bad. Why?”

Page   December 28, 2020   Comments Off on “I’m a Polyamorous Person Who Keeps Compromising by Having Monogamous Relationships & Feeling Bad. Why?”

I’m a polyamorous person that keeps ending up in relationships with monogamous people. Then I compromise and feel wrong, unseen, miserable, and wish to stay polyamorous solo. Then it happens again. Why?

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This is an interesting question, letter writer. To be perfectly honest, you didn’t give me a lot to work with here.  » Read more

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I Long for Less Awkward “Quantity-Neutral” Forms

Page   November 24, 2020   Comments Off on I Long for Less Awkward “Quantity-Neutral” Forms

Kind of a miscellaneous gripe today, folks, but bear with me. I know they’re in vogue and tend to share well on social media (ah, so many writers are the mercy of the algorithm gods), but I generally don’t do a lot of ranty, complaining posts because… I don’t rant a lot in real life?  » Read more

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What’s It Like to Grow Up With Polyamorous Parents? The Answer Is Boring.

Page   September 21, 2020   Comments Off on What’s It Like to Grow Up With Polyamorous Parents? The Answer Is Boring.

I know I don’t write a ton about polyamorous parenting on this blog, mostly because I am not a parent and don’t spend a lot of time with children. I don’t have any children myself. I did have partners in the past that had children, but it has been a while.

That said,  » Read more

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I’m So Tired of Love Triangles in Stories

Page   September 8, 2020   Comments Off on I’m So Tired of Love Triangles in Stories

My new novel Psychic City has been out for a few weeks. And holy hornbeam have y’all been awesome about it. I’ve been hearing from a lot you who have already read the book (wow) and really enjoyed it (aww).

For those of you who aren’t familiar with the book, Psychic City is a slipstream mystery that follows a trio of polyamorous women who are detectives investigating a string of murders.  » Read more

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For Better or Worse, I Don’t Have Rah Rah Polyamory Pom Poms

Page   August 19, 2020   Comments Off on For Better or Worse, I Don’t Have Rah Rah Polyamory Pom Poms

“What I’ve always liked about you,” she tells me, “is that you’re not one of those people who whip out your rah rah polyamory pom poms.”

“Thanks,” I say. “I think.”

“I mean it as a compliment,” she continues. “Like… you’re definitely supportive of polyamory — and other forms of consensual non-monogamy —  » Read more

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Having Known Unselfish Polyamorists Has Restored Faith the Pandemic Has Tested

Page   June 29, 2020   Comments Off on Having Known Unselfish Polyamorists Has Restored Faith the Pandemic Has Tested

As I’ve written many times before, I had a difficult transition into polyamory. I didn’t find non-monogamy to be easy.

Maybe for some people it is, but that’s not been my experience. Nor was it the reason I got into it in the first place, that it seemed like it would be easier.  » Read more

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What Are We Gonna Do Without Each Other?

Page   March 24, 2020   Comments Off on What Are We Gonna Do Without Each Other?

“This is a weird and difficult time to be polyamorous,” he says.

And I know what he means. I’m not sure what to do with it all. With any of it.

It’s tempting at times like these to come up with a quick answer that sounds good. To make up flowcharts or guides that address the problems we want to have rather than the ones we actually have.  » Read more

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Why Non-Toxic Monogamy Is a Beautiful Thing & Why Yes = No, No = Yes

Page   February 14, 2020   Comments Off on Why Non-Toxic Monogamy Is a Beautiful Thing & Why Yes = No, No = Yes

Even though I run a site called Poly.Land, sometimes people are surprised to find out that these days I don’t consider myself to be primarily polyamorous per se — but ambiamorous.

I’ve written about ambiamory many times on this site, for example:

To Make Mono/Poly Easier, View Monogamy and Polyamory as a Spectrum,  » Read more

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“Have You Ever Wanted to Give Up on Polyamory?”

Page   November 21, 2019   Comments Off on “Have You Ever Wanted to Give Up on Polyamory?”

Hey there! I’m new to poly, I’ve only been doing it for less than a year. I’ve been following your writings for that time and they’ve been a great help.

I still struggle with jealousy though, anxiety attacks, and just generally feeling terrible when my partner goes to explore new connections.  » Read more

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