Monthly Archives: March 2019

“You Just Want to Have Your Cake and Eat It, Too”

Page   March 27, 2019   Comments Off on “You Just Want to Have Your Cake and Eat It, Too”

You polyamorous people, she writes, you just want to have your cake and eat it, too.

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I’ve never liked this analogy. “You can’t have your cake and eat it, too.”

The wording’s always been a little confusing since “have” is often used when talking about food to mean “eat.”  » Read more

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Choosing a Home with Non-Monogamy and Privacy in Mind

Page   March 14, 2019   Comments Off on Choosing a Home with Non-Monogamy and Privacy in Mind

“You know what I’m looking forward to the most about buying a house?” she says.

“What’s that?”

“Personal space. Privacy,” she says. “And lots of it.”

I nod. I know what she means. As it stands, it’s pretty much impossible to have a date over in her apartment and have any degree of privacy if her nesting partner is home.  » Read more

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“That’s Not Just Polyamorous People”

Page   March 11, 2019   Comments Off on “That’s Not Just Polyamorous People”

Without fail, whenever one of my essays is shared enough, folks will start commenting on it in a very familiar way:

  • “This isn’t unique to polyamory.”
  • “This doesn’t just apply to polyamorous people.”

This happens even with essays that aren’t specifically about polyamory, ones in which I’m just talking about relationships in general.  » Read more

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