Monthly Archives: May 2018

Monogamy as a Choice Rather Than a Default: Do We Really Need Yet Another Way to Be Incompatible?

Page   May 28, 2018   Comments Off on Monogamy as a Choice Rather Than a Default: Do We Really Need Yet Another Way to Be Incompatible?

Hi Page,

I’ve been reading your blog for several months now. I like your writing because I feel like you talk about polyamory and monogamy in ways that are realistic and like you can understand a person pursuing either relationship style, so long as people are treating each other in a healthy way.   » Read more

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Polymathy Confuses People Just As Much as, If Not More Than, Polyamory

Page   May 18, 2018   Comments Off on Polymathy Confuses People Just As Much as, If Not More Than, Polyamory

I’ve Been Poly My Whole Life — Polymathic

I’m different than a lot of other polyamorous educators because I haven’t been polyamorous my whole life. In fact, polyamory wasn’t even something I seriously considered until I was in my late 20s. Before then, I hadn’t even heard of the word. And I couldn’t fathom how non-monogamous relationships could be conducted in a way that was respectful and mutually beneficial for everyone involved.  » Read more

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Polyamory Toolbox: 3 Strategies for When Your Nesting Partner Has a Date & You Don’t

Page   May 10, 2018   Comments Off on Polyamory Toolbox: 3 Strategies for When Your Nesting Partner Has a Date & You Don’t

It can be a tricky rite of passage in polyamory: Being alone for the evening for the first time while your nesting partner has a date with someone else.

I’ll be the first to admit that it was brutally difficult for me at first when I experienced this rite of passage many years ago,  » Read more

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In Polyamory, Comfort Is a Huge Time-Saver

Page   May 9, 2018   Comments Off on In Polyamory, Comfort Is a Huge Time-Saver

One of the questions I’m most often asked by monogamous or polycurious people is “How do you have time for it all?”

Typically, my reflex is to dive into some time management principles. Talk about different frameworks that can help you to prioritize (for example, Eisenhower/Covey’s time management matrix). Perhaps I’ll discuss the 80/20 Pareto principle,  » Read more

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PQ 18.8 — Can I build a relationship that respects the agency not only of each of us, but of others who are involved as well?

Page   May 6, 2018   Comments Off on PQ 18.8 — Can I build a relationship that respects the agency not only of each of us, but of others who are involved as well?

PQ 18.8 — Can I build a relationship that respects the agency not only of each of us, but of others who are involved as well?

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“You know, it’s funny,” I say to Justin as we’re out taking a walk together. “Sometimes I’ll get asked questions about you when I do interviews.  » Read more

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Yes, I’m a Wholesome Slut. And I’m Not the Only One.

Page   May 4, 2018   Comments Off on Yes, I’m a Wholesome Slut. And I’m Not the Only One.

“Page, how are you doing?” she asks, and before I can answer, she adds. “You know, it’s really been too long.”

“Oh you’re probably right,” I say. “Fair warning: My sense of time has been all messed up lately. I think that things that happened 6 months ago just happened and that last week was last year.”  » Read more

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It’s Okay for People to Stick with Things That Are Occasionally Difficult for Them

Page   May 1, 2018   Comments Off on It’s Okay for People to Stick with Things That Are Occasionally Difficult for Them

“You know, I love my diet,” she says. “I’m down 30 pounds. Never felt healthier. But you know, sometimes I have the hardest time getting myself to the gym. And I’ll be walking around town and hit a block where there’s a bunch of restaurants and I’ll get a whiff of that fry oil and ohhhhhh.”  » Read more

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