Monthly Archives: January 2018

It’s a Different World for Bisexual Women

Page   January 22, 2018   Comments Off on It’s a Different World for Bisexual Women

Nearly 20 years ago, I lived for several months with my friend’s drug dealer. He was 13 years older than me. I didn’t want to date him in the first place, but back then I had a hard time saying no, and he was very persuasive.

Besides, he paid me kindnesses, things that would seem trivial now,  » Read more

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PQ 14.10 — Is this agreement serving the people involved, or are the people serving it?

Page   January 20, 2018   Comments Off on PQ 14.10 — Is this agreement serving the people involved, or are the people serving it?

PQ 14.10 — Is this agreement serving the people involved, or are the people serving it?

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He’s just gotten done telling me about his relationship agreement. Complaining, really. About what he doesn’t like about it. And there’s a lot.

“I get where you’re coming from,” I say. “Have you talked to your partners about changing your relationship agreement?”  » Read more

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PQ 14.9 — Has anyone been harmed by this agreement?

Page   January 14, 2018   Comments Off on PQ 14.9 — Has anyone been harmed by this agreement?

PQ 14.9 — Has anyone been harmed by this agreement?

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Godzilla rampages through the city, toppling buildings, pulling down high-voltage power lines. Electricity spits along the pavement like an exclamation point.

Godzilla beats his chest. Roars.

Under his gigantic feet, citizens scurry every which way.  » Read more

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PQ 14.8 — Has this agreement been successful in meeting the needs it was intended to meet?

Page   January 13, 2018   Comments Off on PQ 14.8 — Has this agreement been successful in meeting the needs it was intended to meet?

PQ 14.8 — Has this agreement been successful in meeting the needs it was intended to meet?

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In a previous life, I worked as a manager in organizational development. A consultant to Human Resources professionals at various companies.

In that capacity, I had a large staff of trainers that I oversaw,  » Read more

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I Wasn’t Always Polyamorous. Dating Was Like a Game of Musical Chairs.

Page   January 9, 2018   Comments Off on I Wasn’t Always Polyamorous. Dating Was Like a Game of Musical Chairs.

I often feel very alien when I find myself amongst a a pack of other polyamorous educators. It’s very common to hear a familiar story from them: They’ve always been polyamorous. Monogamy never seemed quite right to them. They went through life framing relationships in a different way than other people. Conducting themselves polyamorously before they knew the word.  » Read more

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Demotion & Displacement: 2 More Things Jealousy Can Mean

Page   January 8, 2018   Comments Off on Demotion & Displacement: 2 More Things Jealousy Can Mean

As I’ve mentioned before, jealousy is a very strong emotional signal — but it’s not a very specific one.

It’s easy to panic when you experience jealousy, but it’s very much like a check engine light: Jealousy tells you that something is amiss but not what, exactly. And certainly not how serious the issue is.  » Read more

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Is It More Ethical to Hide a Metamour’s Insecurity From Your Partner? Or More Ethical to Tell Them?

Page   January 4, 2018   Comments Off on Is It More Ethical to Hide a Metamour’s Insecurity From Your Partner? Or More Ethical to Tell Them?

Fall 2010

One night, my boyfriend Rob called me on the phone after his wife Michelle left for the library. It was a low-key conversation. Just chitchat, really. We weren’t even having phone sex or anything. At least not yet, although in recent weeks, we’d fallen into a habit of sliding into phone sex after initial introductions.  » Read more

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