Monthly Archives: October 2017

Ask Page: I Think I Want to Break Up with Him, But I Don’t Want to Lose the Friendship

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Hi Page,

I read your blog and your book, and I’m hoping you can help me.

I’ve been polyamorous for 2 years. I have a husband. We were married for about 3 years before we opened up. Like you, we were introduced to polyamory because we found out that our friends were polyamorous.  » Read more

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PQ 12.5 — Do I trust my partner to make good decisions about whom she starts relationships with? Why or why not? What might the consequences be if she makes a poor decision, and how might I deal with those consequences?

Page   October 29, 2017   Comments Off on PQ 12.5 — Do I trust my partner to make good decisions about whom she starts relationships with? Why or why not? What might the consequences be if she makes a poor decision, and how might I deal with those consequences?

PQ 12.5 — Do I trust my partner to make good decisions about whom she starts relationships with? Why or why not? What might the consequences be if she makes a poor decision, and how might I deal with those consequences?

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Ooooo boy, this question.

The answer these days regarding my anchor partner Skyspook,  » Read more

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PQ 12.4 — Do I trust my partner to consider my needs and well-being in his decisions about whether to stay in a relationship that is hurting me? Why or why not? If not, what can I do to improve that trust?

Page   October 28, 2017   Comments Off on PQ 12.4 — Do I trust my partner to consider my needs and well-being in his decisions about whether to stay in a relationship that is hurting me? Why or why not? If not, what can I do to improve that trust?

PQ 12.4 — Do I trust my partner to consider my needs and well-being in his decisions about whether to stay in a relationship that is hurting me? Why or why not? If not, what can I do to improve that trust?

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“Page,” he says. “I hate to ask this from you.  » Read more

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I Wish I Knew Dating a Couple Was Even an Option When I Was Growing Up

Page   October 26, 2017   Comments Off on I Wish I Knew Dating a Couple Was Even an Option When I Was Growing Up

My first crush was on Jeff Goldblum and Geena Davis.

Yes. Both of them. Not Jeff or Geena. Jeff and Geena.

Especially when they were married, during the Earth Girls Are Easy days (and yes, The Fly, but that movie gives me and most other sane peeps the heebie jeebies).  » Read more

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The Pain Is Fine: How We Moved from Vanilla to Swirl to Chocolate Kink

Page   October 24, 2017   Comments Off on The Pain Is Fine: How We Moved from Vanilla to Swirl to Chocolate Kink

“Causing Someone Pain Is Never Okay”

“Ow,” he says.

It takes me a second to even hear that he’s said anything. We’re cuddling on his bed, and I’m so cozy and comfy that I’ve half zoned out of reality.

“C’mon, Page, move,” he says. shoving me to the side.

“Oh,”  » Read more

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A Polyamorous Heaven: Funerals Don’t Come With Trigger Warnings

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Funerals Don’t Come with Trigger Warnings

I’m sitting up as straight as I can on the pew while my mother sobs on my left. Skyspook is on my right, his hands folded in his lap.

We’re sitting in the front row. My grandmother sits on the other side of my mother. All 5′  » Read more

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The Katamari of Kink or Sickness at the Love Buffet?

Page   October 20, 2017   Comments Off on The Katamari of Kink or Sickness at the Love Buffet?

The Katamari of Kink

“The reason I’m into polyamory is because no one person could be into everything I’m into,” he says.

“Oh?”

“It’s not the whole reason I’m in the polyamory, but it’s a reason I’m into polyamory,” he clarifies.

It’s evident, the breadth of his interests.  » Read more

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Dobby Is a Free Elf: Polyamorous Partying Without Expectations

Page   October 17, 2017   Comments Off on Dobby Is a Free Elf: Polyamorous Partying Without Expectations

It all started with a silly meme that I made for Poly.Land’s Facebook page, mixing polyamory with a bit of Harry Potter. “Dobby has no master. Dobby is a free elf.”

But as fate would have it, I was throwing a party at my house that very evening. The first one since I started dating my three partners that they would all be in attendance: Skyspook,  » Read more

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How to Hear the Secret “For Me” that Other People Miss

Page   October 16, 2017   Comments Off on How to Hear the Secret “For Me” that Other People Miss

“You should hear what he says about you when you’re not around,” she says.

“Oh?” I say. She has my attention.

“He says your writing is too personal, that you open up and share too much,” she says.

I’m stunned by this news. To my face he’s never been anything other than complimentary.  » Read more

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PQ 12.1 — Under what circumstances do I feel it’s appropriate for me to use veto?

Page   October 15, 2017   Comments Off on PQ 12.1 — Under what circumstances do I feel it’s appropriate for me to use veto?

PQ 12.1 — Under what circumstances do I feel it’s appropriate for me to use veto?

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Welcome to Chapter 12!

I futz about on Quora from time to time. Not as busy or as active as some, for sure, but occasionally I get on there and answer questions.  » Read more

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