Monthly Archives: July 2017

PQ 9.8 — Does my partner make me feel worse about myself?

Page   July 30, 2017   Comments Off on PQ 9.8 — Does my partner make me feel worse about myself?

PQ 9.8 — Does my partner make me feel worse about myself?

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Before I begin, a quick caveat: I get what this question is driving at, but saying someone “makes” us feel a certain way can have a downside.

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A lot of people are scared of polyamory and other forms of ethical non-monogamy because they worry their partner will compare them to others.  » Read more

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Running Out of Side Quests on the Quest for Primary

Page   July 25, 2017   Comments Off on Running Out of Side Quests on the Quest for Primary

“If you asked most people whether they believed in love or not, they’d probably say they didn’t. Yet that’s not necessarily what they truly think. It’s just the way they defend themselves against what they want. They believe in it, but pretend they don’t until they’re allowed to. Most people would throw away all their cynicism if they could.  » Read more

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Non-Monogamy Didn’t Save My Marriage…It Saved Me

Page   July 11, 2017   Comments Off on Non-Monogamy Didn’t Save My Marriage…It Saved Me

“Could Non-Monogamy Save Your Marriage?”

I’m asked this fairly often, if I think non-monogamy is a good way to fix a troubled relationship. And outsiders often assume that this is the major reason that relationships open up in the first place.

But it wasn’t that way for me at all. When Seth and I opened up,  » Read more

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Redaters Anonymous: Getting Back Together or Moving Forward?

Page   July 10, 2017   Comments Off on Redaters Anonymous: Getting Back Together or Moving Forward?

Somehow my ex-boyfriend CC is back in my life.

Until quite recently, I had never redated an ex while in polyamorous relationships. I could see circumstances where this could possibly happen. But when I thought of it, it was always surrounding obstacles that were largely external, situational. Like if one of us moved out of state,  » Read more

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The Come-With: More Isn’t Always Merrier

Page   July 7, 2017   Comments Off on The Come-With: More Isn’t Always Merrier

Skyspook had been away for a week at a conference. Only 2 hours away by car. But between my work schedule and his networking commitments, it could very well have been 20.

I tucked my head down like always. Kept myself busy. We texted and even Skyped when he had a spare moment.  » Read more

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PQ 8.11 — Am I afraid that anyone my partner has sex with will try to persuade her to leave me?

Page   July 2, 2017   Comments Off on PQ 8.11 — Am I afraid that anyone my partner has sex with will try to persuade her to leave me?

PQ 8.11 — Am I afraid that anyone my partner has sex with will try to persuade her to leave me?

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“Tell no one this, but if I’d met you when I was dating her, I would have dumped her and gotten with you instead. You’re the kind of woman I wish I’d married,” he said.  » Read more

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PQ 8.10 — Am I afraid that if my partner has sex with someone else, she will start comparing me whenever we have sex?

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PQ 8.10 — Am I afraid that if my partner has sex with someone else, she will start comparing me whenever we have sex?

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I hope she does compare.

I hope when she’s lying there naked in my arms that she can feel his hands there, too. Stroking her back.  » Read more

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