Monthly Archives: August 2015

Swing and a Miss

Page   August 28, 2015   Comments Off on Swing and a Miss

Much has been made recently of gaslighting, and it’s a very important concept to keep track of, boundary policing being of paramount importance especially in those who have multiple relationships. Here’s a good essay on gaslighting: http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2011/11/02/on-gasslighting/ Briefly: Gaslighting is a form of manipulation in which the target is continually forced to question their own […]

Swing and a Miss

Page   August 28, 2015   Comments Off on Swing and a Miss

Much has been made recently of gaslighting, and it’s a very important concept to keep track of, boundary policing being of paramount importance especially in those who have multiple relationships. Here’s a good essay on gaslighting: http://www.polyamorousmisanthrope.com/2011/11/02/on-gasslighting/ Briefly: Gaslighting is a form of manipulation in which the target is continually forced to question their own […]

Velcro

Page   August 27, 2015   Comments Off on Velcro

“Emotionally, you’re 90 years old,” my boss says. It’s one of those weeks, ever increasing in frequency, where I’m frustrated with her for not seeing the big picture, for not thinking ahead of the current decisions and fitting it into future strategy. Acting as if only the present moment exists is a low-pressure state, and […]

Velcro

Page   August 27, 2015   Comments Off on Velcro

“Emotionally, you’re 90 years old,” my boss says. It’s one of those weeks, ever increasing in frequency, where I’m frustrated with her for not seeing the big picture, for not thinking ahead of the current decisions and fitting it into future strategy. Acting as if only the present moment exists is a low-pressure state, and […]

Leaping

Page   August 18, 2015   Comments Off on Leaping

“Men are awful,” M said. “If I were you, I’d stick to dating girls.” “I’ve never dated a girl,” I told him. “Well, something’s going on,” he observed. “I’ve seen the way you look at them and the way they look at you. Especially when you’re on stage.” I blushed, averted my eyes. We’d been […]

Leaping

Page   August 18, 2015   Comments Off on Leaping

“Men are awful,” M said. “If I were you, I’d stick to dating girls.” “I’ve never dated a girl,” I told him. “Well, something’s going on,” he observed. “I’ve seen the way you look at them and the way they look at you. Especially when you’re on stage.” I blushed, averted my eyes. We’d been […]

Staring into the Fucking Sun

Page   August 11, 2015   Comments Off on Staring into the Fucking Sun

Six Years Ago The first time my ex-husband Seth went to spend the night with his girlfriend, I gave him a hug, told him to have a good time, and closed the apartment door behind him. I spent a minute listening to his footsteps, watching our car drive away, the headlights skimming off puddles in […]

Staring into the Fucking Sun

Page   August 11, 2015   Comments Off on Staring into the Fucking Sun

Six Years Ago The first time my ex-husband Seth went to spend the night with his girlfriend, I gave him a hug, told him to have a good time, and closed the apartment door behind him. I spent a minute listening to his footsteps, watching our car drive away, the headlights skimming off puddles in […]

Jankuary

Page   August 10, 2015   Comments Off on Jankuary

Janky: (adjective) inferior quality; held in low social regard; old and dilapidated; refers almost exclusively to inanimate material objects, not to people *** The inaugural month of our return to poly life has come and gone. It’s been fascinating and sometimes frustrating to note how often things feel different in theory than they do in […]

Jankuary

Page   August 10, 2015   Comments Off on Jankuary

Janky: (adjective) inferior quality; held in low social regard; old and dilapidated; refers almost exclusively to inanimate material objects, not to people *** The inaugural month of our return to poly life has come and gone. It’s been fascinating and sometimes frustrating to note how often things feel different in theory than they do in […]